Until one goes through a trying time you have no idea how you will react. We think we may be this way or that but until we truly walk through the fire we don't know what areas of our life will really be affected either physically, mentally or emotionally.
My youngest son went through such a time recently with a divorce he never saw coming. Being married only over a year he was looking forward to a promising future with the young woman he loved. That is, until it all came crashing down and fast. Within four months of their first big fight he was divorced. He was literally blindsided. In December they had a dousy of a fight. In January she moved out, and in April he was divorced.
So now what? He's still young. Very handsome. Athletic. He has a good job and is in a yuppie area with not only alot of young professionals but in and around a college town teaming with young beautiful co-eds.
So there definitely is not a shortage of young attractive women clamoring to be his date.
He came up with a plan. One that I'm not particularly fond of but then again, I'd hate to see him rush into anything. He tends to be impulsive when it comes to some things but I've never seen him that way with women. He's like his father, a one-woman man. The only woman he cared about or ever wanted is now gone. She was the only girl he ever dated even though there were many opportunities and requests.
The plan? I call it Five Dates. It's one where he said he'll only date a girl five times and then he's through. The girl never knows the plan ahead of time. He doesn't want to get serious. He doesn't wish to be attached. He says he never will again walk the aisle of matrimony. His heart was broken once and it will never happen again.
The girl, from what I gather, ends up confused. After her fifth date she no longer hears from him. He doesn't return her calls or emails. He's had a couple of them write him long notes. Each one upon, end of contact with him, afterward says something to the effect of "I thought we had a connection."
He asked me, "how can one have a one way connection?" Obviously if there was a connection it would have to be both sides connecting. He doesn't feel the same way because he's not looking for any such relationship.
He calls home quite often to touch base, usually on his way home from work. Most of the time he's heading out with a girl later and he'll tell me his plan for the upcoming evening or weekend. Of course, I usually ask, "what number date is she on?" He'll say three or four and I'll say "uh oh, she's almost done." I wonder how she'll react.
After he first told me this plan I told him it sounded like a movie. He, being a journalist, should keep a journal because one day this could be made into a movie. Hopefully at the end of the story boy meets girl and she makes it past the fifth date.
So I kid with him saying if a girl makes it to the sixth date, he's done for. Or if he brings her home to us we'll know he's finally serious again. He swears it will never happen.
I'm just hoping one day I can write a sequel to this and call it "The Sixth Date!"
Someone sent him a song from youtube. He says it's his new favorite song. Evidently it speaks to his situation and must have been written by someone just like him; someone who had his heart broken and was able to write down these lyrics with a comedic point of view.