Published on May 30, 2009 By KFC Kickin For Christ In Blogging

I couldn't believe my eyes and my ears the other night. 

It was about 6 pm three days ago.  My husband and I set out for our usual six miler.  We needed to get this run over with fairly quickly because an impending storm was headed our way. 

It was a nice early evening despite the threatening skies.  It was humid and warm but not overbearing and we were having a nice run keeping watch which way the clouds were heading.  We were just ahead of the storm it was looking like.  So we thought we'd be ok.  So we just settled in for a nice moderate pace and were enjoying the run along quiet country like roads.

That is, until someone set about to ruin it. 

We live in a golf cart community.  There are wide asphalt paths on each side of the road for bikers and golf carts.  They're called recreation paths.  Along one side of the street all over this community are cement sidewalks where people leisurely stroll with their dogs and/or grandchildren. 

We run, as we have for many years on the asphalt.   It's never ever been a problem until we moved here a year and a half ago. The reason we don't run on the cement sidewalks is because it's very bad for the feet and lower legs.  Besides all that if we did run on the sidewalks, we would have to jump on and off as we approached these walkers to go around them and that's not good either. 

As running ettiquette goes we always run facing traffic.  So we run in these wide rec paths facing the cars,golf carts and bikes coming our way.  We try not run on the cement sidewalks.  We usually move over to the far left side of the road making sure there's plenty of room when a golf cart approaches.  Most people are friendly and move around us like you would if you were in a car and spotted a biker ahead of you.   This isn't really necessary because the path is so wide there's plenty of room for both golf cart and runner at the same time.

So back to the other night. 

We were running along and an approaching golf cart is slowing down as it comes nearer to us.  Thinking it's just trying to be polite and give us room we continue to run single file as we go by.  At the same time we approach the cart it stops.  The wife was driving the cart and the husband, as the passenger, was the nearest to us. 

He yelled so loud and so nasty I thought I saw foam forming around his lips.  I actually jumped a little.  He screamed at the top of his lungs for us to get on the sidewalk.  I actually thought he was going to get out of the cart and punch us out.  It wasn't so much the words but the violent attitude.  I started worrying about his wife.  Good grief.  What type of husband must he be?

I could tell immediately my husband was shook up.  I could tell by the way he continued to run and his silence for a few minutes.  He was processing.   This type of attitude is very foreign to him.  He's always been kind and considerate not thinking of himself but others in almost all situations of life.  He's a giver.  And this shook him to the core.   We didn't discuss this too much rather we just were in such shock it defied all words. 

This has happened before but not with this ferocity.  We've never seen such hatred.  And for what?  Because we dared run on the side of the road instead of the cement sidewalk?  There are cars few and far between especially right now with the snowbirds gone.  So it had nothing to do with traffic.  In fact we have noted the ones that scream at us never have a car or another cart behind them.   We can see past them and if ever there looked to be a few cars coming at once or a potential problem we do jump on the sidewalk just to be polite and make it easier for the drivers to pass by even tho it's probably not needed.

As we neared home, my husband the faster runner, decided to kick in the last mile by himself as I decided not to take the challenge.  As he sped off into the distance another golf cart approached me coming out of a side road.   As I continued to run this main drag up a steep hill, wouldn't you know it, but this male driver decided to give me his advice as well?  Same words, "get on the sidewalk."   Not another car on the road either in front of him or behind him.  It was just him and I as I puffed up the hill.  My energy can't be wasted on words.  So I stay quiet.

What is happening to our world?  I'm afraid as we get further and further away from God and his ways we are going to be so totally corrupt and so morally bankrupt there will be no hope.  We have lost our moral compass and it's going to be a tough go without it.   We can't put our hope in man.  It doesn't work.  Look at all the corruption and the anger and the blank looks on the faces of so many people.  It's quite scary really.

So yesterday my husband came home with a paper. Obviously he's still processing the events of the other night.   He had done some research on running on asphalt vs running on cement.  The research confirmed our belief that it's very bad for your joints to run on cement. 

So we will continue to run on the asphalt, giving the drivers of these carts the benefit of the doubt as they go by that they are not going to be violent with us.  

My husband now says jokingly maybe he'll run with a squirt gun.  The next driver that mouths off maybe will get a squirt of cold water to cool down.  When I mentioned that might incite the driver to physical violence do you know what my mild mannered husband said? 

Well, he'd have to catch me first!  

 

 

 

 

 

 


Comments
on May 30, 2009

My 1st question is..are there no rules posted for path use?  Usually when recreation paths are installed, a sign will be posted detailing what they can and can't be used for.

If there are no signs, is there a policy within your housing area/subdivision?

It sounds like in the year and a half since you've been there, people have started talking about "the runners on the golf cart path."  Which is probably what they believe it is.  (And they may even make the correlation about how godless people are for running on the path when it is not intended for it!  haha)

If it were just one person commenting, well, you could maybe push it off as someone's bad day, but since two people said something within minutes of each other, they obviously think  you are breaking some sort of rule...and its built up enough that after a year and a half, they feel justified in yelling/commenting about it.

After all, in their minds you've been willy nilly breaking this rule for a year and a half!

Not running on the rec path may be a community implied standard.  This is where most new comers get into the most difficulty because unless its written down, how are you supposed to know?

If there are no rules against it, next time someone says something, ask them why they believe the rec path is for golf cart use only.  Maybe they know something you don't.

Of course that doesn't excuse the rude behavior.  How hard is it to inform you if there is such a rule?  Or direct your attention to a sign?

And if after all that, there is no implicit or explicit guidelines, then you can start wondering about the state of the world... while running on the rec path.

on May 31, 2009

KFC-

I've been in the same situation before. I've been running for years, but once in a blue moon a situation like what you encountered seems to happen to everyone no matter how polite you try to be.

If you have another similar encounter in the near future, I would definitely echo Tova's comments about what may be the unwritten rules of "the rec path"

With that said, if folks are so terribly sensitive and emotional about being able to drive their golf carts uninterrupted on their heavenly little piece of asphalt.... well, I don't know if that qualifies as comedy or tragedy.

This could be a good thing for you- both your husband and yourself could be seen as those rebellious runners who defy the unwritten rules by running on the rec path, thumbing their noses at the authority structure of the community...

And in the end, if you encounter someone who gets bent out of shape over sidewalk vs asphalt during the twilight hours when there's little to no other traffic present.... I would be more inclined to pity them than anything else!

on May 31, 2009

I've noticed people driving more aggressively these days and getting hot headed behind the wheel, but thats about it. Keep in mind, the economy right now isn't all that great and some folks are getting hammered. Just today, one of my moms neighbors was holding a yard sale because she claimed to be selling her house, but no one is selling in a market like this. She was selling all her expensive pots and pans for like a dollar and what not.  sad.

on May 31, 2009

I think it's because non-runners don't understand the whys and hows of it.  I would probably be annoyed (not to the point of accosting someone!!) if they were running toward me in my vehicle on the street.  It would seem unsafe to me. 

on May 31, 2009

My 1st question is..are there no rules posted for path use? Usually when recreation paths are installed, a sign will be posted detailing what they can and can't be used for.

No, they are called rec paths for a reason. Meaning it's for all sorts of recreational activities like rollar blading, biking, running, golf carts etc.  In fact I've seen some occasional letters to the editor here about the rude people in the carts who believe they own these rec paths reminding people that these are called rec paths not golf cart paths.  I haven't seen one written from a runners perspective tho. 

If there are no signs, is there a policy within your housing area/subdivision?

No and we have the neighborhood watch vehicles go by us all the time.  In fact I've run around their parked vehicles in these paths many a time.  They've never ever said a word to us.  When we do go for a walk we do use the sidewalk btw. 

It sounds like in the year and a half since you've been there, people have started talking about "the runners on the golf cart path."

Who knows, but I don't think so because we run in so many various areas the complaints are not concentrated in one area.  Running six miles around here in various locations is quite an area to cover.  Hahaha you've got to come here and see for yourself T.  I could run six miles every day for a year and outside of the first mile to and from my house I could run a diff course every day for a year easy.   There are so many offshoots and cul-de-sacs around here it's unbelieveable. 

The other thing is I very rarely encounter another runner so it's not like there are tons of us out here at the same time.  I tend to run more in the early evening.  I have seen some early am runners tho.  Most of them are running on the sidewalks.  So that's probably not helping our case.  If golf cart drivers see them they probably wonder why we're not doing the same.  Most of these runners by looking at them are recreational or novice runners probably not knowing how bad concrete is for their joints. 

Not running on the rec path may be a community implied standard. This is where most new comers get into the most difficulty because unless its written down, how are you supposed to know?

It doesn't seem to be by the letters and occasional articles I've read in the local papers.  So nothing is showing me that we're in the wrong unless I want to listen to a few nasty golf cart drivers.  In their eyes we are not in the right. 

How hard is it to inform you if there is such a rule? Or direct your attention to a sign?

The only signs on the roads are what you would have on your roads.  You know the typical stop signs, speed limit and yellow signs.  It's not any diff than any regular road except on both sides it has a nice wide rec path for golf carts, bikes, and runners etc. 

I've been running for years, but once in a blue moon a situation like what you encountered seems to happen to everyone no matter how polite you try to be.

Pretty much the same here.  We've run all over the country in various states in various conditions and types of roads.  Sometimes we've run in very busy areas just trying to do a three miler while staying at a hotel.  Not knowing the area we just lace up our running shoes and head out from the motel doing an out and back by time.   It's  only on very rare occasions that we encountered rudeness until we moved here. 

Sometimes I do jump up on the sidewalk if I see that a cart  has a car on its rear or maybe if I see three or more golf carts in quick succession.  It doesn't happen often.  When I do this I usually get waves and smiles.  But obviously if I did that for every cart, I'd be not only worn out but hurting. 

With that said, if folks are so terribly sensitive and emotional about being able to drive their golf carts uninterrupted on their heavenly little piece of asphalt

I think you just nailed it.  The carts only go 20 mph and for the most part they're all retired.  It's like they don't want to have to slow down.  They think they own these paths.  Keep in mind there are others who wave and smile as they go by us.  What a contrast.  Some even ask how many miles I'm running or say "good job."  My husband keeps asking me....."what's the hurry?  It would be awful for them to just slow down."  Most likely we're the only runners they will encounter that trip and probably for days on end before they see us again.  If they even do. 

This could be a good thing for you- both your husband and yourself could be seen as those rebellious runners who defy the unwritten rules by running on the rec path, thumbing their noses at the authority structure of the community...

This is a good thing?  My husband would most definitely say anything remotely sounding like rebellion is a very bad thing.  He's probably the least rebellious person I know.  I'm glad I married him because I needed someone to help me with my inclination for rebellion  

I would be more inclined to pity them than anything else!

Yes, that's what I think.   They need Jesus!!! 

Keep in mind, the economy right now isn't all that great and some folks are getting hammered

still no excuse for bad behavior.  We live in a pretty affluent community (that's probably the crux of the problem) and while most seem to be pretty well off I have heard that some retirees have had a big hit on their retirement funds.  I met one guy on my street who said he can't do the extras around his house because of it. 

I think it's because non-runners don't understand the whys and hows of it. I would probably be annoyed (not to the point of accosting someone!!) if they were running toward me in my vehicle on the street. It would seem unsafe to me

That's it.  Most non-runners don't understand.  But running towards traffic is safe because if anything were to happen like a car swerving onto the shoulder we can jump away from them.  That's one of the reasons I'm so against seeing runners with headphones on while running the roads.

We always try to run on roads that have wide shoulders or bike paths.  If not, or on our way towards a good road, when an approaching car comes, we run onto the dirt shoulder until the car passes. Most runners do this as a curtesy. 

I'm thinking of writing a letter to the editor explaining to non-runners the reasons why most runners prefer running on the asphalt to the cement sidewalks.   I'm wondering what they did back in their own home towns where there are no such golf cart paths when they saw an approaching runner. 

 

 

 

on Jun 06, 2009

I'm thinking of writing a letter to the editor explaining to non-runners the reasons why most runners prefer running on the asphalt to the cement sidewalks.

This is probably your best bet.  It sounds like the paths are open to all for whatever recreation required.  I think a letter addresses the issue directly without addressing the screamer....great idea.

on Jun 07, 2009

In this week's Recreational Newspaper  which comes out once a week I read this from the front page:

"And finally I received another e-mail from a resident about the walker and golf cart use of the transportation paths.  As she requested, here is your reminder that walkers, golf carts and bicyclists have wqual use of the pats.  Courtesy and respect to each other is important for your safety and happiness!" 

Every once in a while I see something in some local paper somewhere that says the same. As you can see, this isn't the only time this particular editorialist got an email like this.   Evidently someone else, maybe a walker, got yelled at and wrote this e-mail.