Doesn't Have to be a Fantasy
Published on March 20, 2008 By KFC Kickin For Christ In Marital Issues

I've been thinking alot about marriages lately. 

Maybe it's because of this latest infidelity involving our NY Governor.  Where is the commitment level?  Did you see the pain and shame on the Governor's wife's face?  Can you imagine what's going through his children's minds? 

Marriage, has been under attack these last so many years and I'm wondering what we can do about it.  Families are hurting.  Children are feeling abandoned and lost.  Schools and workplaces are even affected.  Who's to blame here?  Society? Media?  Circumstances?  The evil adulterer who lured one spouse away from the other?   Men and women not being faithful to their vows? 

Faithfulness is a hard virtue to come by these days.  Commitment seems to be a bad word.  It doesn't help that the media seems to give permission to unfaithfulness or at the very least make excuses for it.  You can see it everywhere. 

Eight out of 10 Americans think adultery is wrong.  Nine out of 10 believe that faithfulness is very important in a successful marriage.  But recently the NY times said adultery is normal.  They said this:

 "It’s been done by many other creatures, tens of thousands of other species, by male and female representatives of every taxonomic twig on the great tree of life.  Sexual promiscuity is rampant throughout nature, and true faithfulness a fond fantasy."

Really?  Do you think that?  Well I suppose if you want to compare us to animals, but I don't.  I believe we were made in the image of God and his desire was for us to have one partner for life.  He knew how destructive it would be otherwise.  Look at all the hurt caused by those who have wandered away from his best for us.  Look at the children's faces and the pain and toll divorce or adultery has had on us all. 

It wasn't meant to be this way. 

 

 

 


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on Mar 22, 2008
Leauki posts:
I am getting my info from the fact that Jewish law allows polygamy. A man could thus not commit adultery except by coveting the wife of another man, which is a separate commandment.


KFC Posts: Well it could be Jewish law outside of scripture but it's not based on the Torah.


KFC, God granted a dispensation to the patriarchs and tolerated polygamy. Check out Deut. 21:15-17. Abraham, Jacob and others practiced polygamy. The conditions of the times caused it to be tolerated. God permitted it to accelerate the race after the Flood and to increase the number of His chosen people in defencse of their mission against His enemies and on account of hardness of heart which also caused divorce to be tolerated.

Polygamy was permitted under the imperfect, the Mosaic Law. But with Christ came the perfect law which condemned both polygamy and divorce holding them to be contrary to the DIvine Law. When it comes to marriage there is a world of difference between the law of Moses and the Law of Christ. With Christ came the perfection of the Mosaic Law.
Those who obey God's will perfectly guide themselves by the principles set out in Genesis 2 and in the Book of Tobias. From this we can conclude that those who practice polygamy aren't practicing God's will perfectly.





on Mar 22, 2008
Leauki posts: #17
And Jewish (as well as Islamic) law has always allowed polygamy. It was customary to allow it in the middle east (although Islam limits the number of wives to four).
In fact the Mormons also understood scripture that way.


The Mormons claim that Joseph Smith received the revelation on plural marriages in 1843. Obviously polygamy was an afterthought since the Book of Mormon as well as Doctrine and Covenants states that polygamy is an "abomination before the Lord". Anyhow, after 1853, polygamy was openly practiced and defended. Polygamy was traded in for statehood in 1896 when Utah became the 45th state in the union. To my knowledge, the Mormons have never renounced its belief in polygamy; it's become a "suspended" doctrine that could be reinstituted if the government would allow its practice.

on Mar 23, 2008
zergimmi posts:
Even Martin Luther allowed poligamy, even though the christian church of the day did not allow it, he made this decision based on the same arguments some of you have put forward, going back to Abraham, who had several wives.


KFC posts:
I never heard this before. Do you have something on this I can look up to verify?


Yes, it's true. Luther advocated bigamy in order to retain the influence of Philip for the Reformation.

Both Luther and Calvin were heretical in their teachings on polygamy. The Gospel absolutely forbids polygamy from both Christ and St. Paul....St.Matt.19:4-6; Rom. 7:2; 1Cor. 7:2; Eph. 5:23-31.

The Council of Trent condemned them becasue they held that "it is lawful for Christians to have several wives and that this is prohibited by no divine law." Luther, Melanchthon and Bucer wrote to Philip, Landgrave of Hesse, that the divine law gave a general sanction to polygamy, and acting on their advice, on March 4, 1540, he took a second wife, a 16 year old, Marghereta von Sale. The Reformers told him to keep it secret for fear of scandal, and becasue it clearly violated Imperial Law at the time. Bucer advised Philip, if any difficulties arise with the EMperor, to meet the problem with a downright lie. The Protestant historian, Kostlin, says of their disgraceful action, "Philip's bigamy is the greatest blot in Luther's life despite everything that can be alleged in explanation or excuse." Grisar, Luther, 4, 13-70.

Have you ever studied the Peasant's War? Their chief, John of Leyden had 3 wives.

Luther married an ex-nun. According to Luther's WOrks, Vol. 2, pg. 40, on April 5, 1523, the night before Easter, a guy named Leonard Koppe and a couple other guys abducted 12 nuns from the Cistercain cloister of Nimptsch in Silesia. They connived with Luther and brought them to Wittenberg. In a letter from Luther, he called Koppe a "blessed robber" and compared him to the Resurrectered Savior..Luther wrote, "As Christ, at easter had redeemed the world by His Resurrection, so Koppe by his bold deed on Easter night had redeemed these nuns." After 2 years, another apostate priest, Buganhagen, married Luther and one of the nuns, Katherine Bora, 16 years his junior.

on Mar 23, 2008

KFC, I read about Martin Luther and his attitude to poligamy in some Luthern History books that belong to my Mother in Law, will check out which and let you know."In 1539, Luther became involved in controversy surrounding the bigamy of Philip 1, Landgrave of Hesse, who wanted to marry one of his wife's ladies-in-waiting. Luther ruled that polygamy was acceptable, noting that the Patriarchs of the Old Testament had had more than one wife, and so Philip entered into the second marriage in secret. Philip's sister made news of the marriage public a few weeks later, scandalizing Germany." This is anexcerpt from Wikipedia, which says pretty much what I have read elsewhere, however it is a bit light on detail. Another place worth looking is the online catholic encyclopedia, gives a lot more info on Philip and his involvement in the reformation.

It offers a more definative history of Luther than Wikipedia, although at points where I have crosschecked Wikipedia seems to have its facts right, just a bit concice, and it tend to labour more on the darker side of ML, especially his attitude to JEWS.

on Mar 23, 2008

KFC, God granted a dispensation to the patriarchs and tolerated polygamy. Check out Deut. 21:15-17. Abraham, Jacob and others practiced polygamy. The conditions of the times caused it to be tolerated. God

I disagree on this one Lula. 

At the creation of the first couple God had stated a strong case for monogamy as being the normative for marriage.  The first departure came with Lamech (descendant of Cain)  in Gen 4:19.  There are less than 20 examples of polygamy in the entire OT after that so it's not as numerous as you might think. 

No permission can be recited from scripture for any such institution or practice.  The Bible merely describes what some did; it never condones their polygamy nor does it make their practices normative for that time nor this. 

In the meantime the model of monogamy was held throughout the OT as the norm.  For example Proverbs 5:13-23 taught the same truth by means of one allegory of drinking water from one's own well.  Also a whole book of the OT was dedicating to celebrating the dedication of reserving oneself for only one other person of the opposite sex.

The bible doesn't stop to moralize on these instances of polygamy but does expect each reader to realize that what was taking place was contrary to the will and morality of God.

Scripture does not always pause to state the obvious.  There is no need for us to imagine what God thinks about such practices.  The misfortune and strife that comes into the domestic lives of these polygamists cannot be read as a sign of divine approval. 

Malachi 2;14 says that God is a witness to all weddings and contends for the "wife of our youth"......Jeremiah had to rebuke the men of his own time who were "neighing for another man's wife" (Jer 5:8).  Had polygamy been customarily approved his wording would have been in the plural, "wives."   Furthermore all they had to do was look aroung and acquire several new wives on their own instead of seeking those already taken!  Polygamy never was God's order for marriage in the OT. 

 

on Mar 23, 2008

Luther married an ex-nun. According to Luther's WOrks, Vol. 2, pg. 40, on April 5, 1523, the night before Easter, a guy named Leonard Koppe and a couple other guys abducted 12 nuns

See this is an example.  Everything you cite about Luther is with contempt and hatred Lula.  These nuns came willingly and Luther secured for them all husbands and finally after so many years (you say two) he finally married the one who was very devoted to him.  Their marriage was a happy one with at least six children born to this couple. 

But notice......he only married one ex-nun. 

 

on Mar 23, 2008

Thanks Zergimmi for the info

I would never go to a Catholic site on Luther.  Never.  The Catholics are totally biased when it comes to Luther.  Remember they hated him and wanted him killed.  He upset the apple cart. Over the years I've found many of their accusations based on emotion and heresey, not fact. 

I did find a site that answered alot of Catholic accusations against Luther using his own words recorded in history.  One had to do with this subject.  They basically said that Luther did approve of polygamy but only in a very strict sense.  He had a very narrow window when it came to polygamy with leprosy as being one of the examples cited.  So if a wife came down with leprosy, which meant she had to be taken out of the home and placed in a commune with other lepers then it would be ok for the man to remarry. 

Here's the link:  http://beggarsallreformation.blogspot.com/2005/12/martin-luther-topical-master-index-for.html

and a response to the charge about Luther and polygamy using Luther's own words.


"In a letter addressed to Joseph Levin Metzsch of December 9, 1526, Luther says: "Your first question: Whether person may have more than one wife? I answer thus: Let unbelievers do what they please; Christian liberty, however, is regulated by love (charity), so that all that a Christian does is done to serve his fellow-man, provided only that he can render such service without jeopardy and damage to his faith and conscience. Nowadays, however, everybody is striving for a liberty that profits and pleases him, without regard for the profit and improvement which his neighbor might derive from his action. This is contrary to the teaching of St. Paul, who says: 'All things are lawful unto me, but all things are not expedient' (1 Cor. 6, 12). Only see that your liberty does not become an occasion to the flesh. . . . Moreover, although the patriarchs had many wives, Christians may not follow their example, because there is no necessity for doing this, no improvement is obtained thereby, and, especially, there is no word of God to justify this practise, while great offense and trouble may come from it. Accordingly, I do not believe that Christians any longer have this liberty. God would have to publish a command that would declare such a liberty." (21a, 901 f.) To Clemens Ursinus, pastor at Bruck, Luther writes under date of March 21, 1527: "Polygamy, which in former times was permitted to the Jews and Gentiles, cannot be honestly approved of among Christians, and cannot be engaged in with a good conscience, unless in an extreme case of necessity, as, for instance, when one of the spouses is separated from the other by leprosy or for a similar cause. Accordingly, you may say to the carnal people (with whom you have to do), if they want to be Christians, they must keep married fidelity and bridle their flesh, not give it license. If they want to be heathen, let them do what they please, at their own risk." (21a, 928.)

on Mar 24, 2008

KFC POSTS:

The Jews, had a low regard for women and they went outside the law to do so. They interpreted Moses' law or twisted it to belittle the women. 

LEAUKI POSTS: #18

KFC, that is simply ignorant anti-Semitism and I find it sad to see you repeat it. Jews did and do not have low regard for women. In fact you will find that Sarah is as revered as Abraham, that G-d was said to have a female presence (spiritual, always spiritual!) as well as a male presence, and at the very moment the Jewish festival of Purim reminds us of Esther who saved the Jewish people in Persia. There were female prophets and Jewish law allowed for women to own property thousands of years before any Christian country or law featured such an arrangement.

Leauki,

 Your points against KFC's assertion that Jews had low regard for women are well made...but why make the charge of anti-Semitism?

As I read it, KFC simply disagrees with you over how well or not Jews in general  treated women in the Old Testament times. She may or may not be ignorant on the facts, but ignorance is a far from anti-Semitism.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

on Mar 24, 2008
Is this all about your fascination with the dinos or polygamy? Hmmmmm?


*gulp*

Both!

on Mar 24, 2008
yay for forum burps and double posts!

Enjoy another pointless comic!

on Mar 24, 2008

Lula posts:

So yes, some of the ancient Patriarchs married several wives and that was part of the Old Law. Yet, Christ has clearly shown that polygamy is not in keeping with the primal nature of Matrimony as was "in the beginning." St. Matt.19:5-6; St.Mark 10:11-12.

KFC POSTS:

Yes, some did marry more than one wife, but that was NOT part of the Old law. Where do you see that it is?

I addressed that already....God, for His own reasons, made concessions in the Old Law. He allowed polygamy and divorce.   

After the Fall, Marriage was under the regime of sin and the marital relationship became marred by concupiscence. God’s ancient design of faithful monogamy wasn't preserved. In His mercy, God hasn’t forsaken sinful man. Moral conscience concerning the unity and indissolubility of Marriage developed under the pedagogy of the Old Law. The law given to Moses aims at protecting the wife from arbitrary domination by the husband, even though according to the Lord’s words, it still carries traces of man’s ‘hardness of heart’ which was the reason Moses permitted men to divorce their wives.

So, Christ clearly tells us that, whatever consessions were made in the Old Law, it was God's intention from the very beginning that a man should cleave to his wife, not wives, and that they should be two in one flesh. God had made consessons becasue of the hardness of men's hearts in the less perfect Law, but those consessions were withdrawn in the more perfect Law. Christ restored the primitive law when He said, "Henceforth, what God hath joined together, let not man put asunder."

on Mar 24, 2008
kfc posts #29
Leauki,
I think you misunderstand. God NEVER allows poloygamy. Then or now.


lULA POSTS:
I disagree KFC. God did allow polygamy...He didn't sanction it per se, but allowed it.


kfc posts:
Yes, you're right. God allowed it. I should have said God did not sanction it.


lULA POSTS:
KFC, God granted a dispensation to the patriarchs and tolerated polygamy. Check out Deut. 21:15-17. Abraham, Jacob and others practiced polygamy. The conditions of the times caused it to be tolerated. God



kfc posts:
I disagree on this one Lula. ........
No permission can be recited from scripture for any such institution or practice. The Bible merely describes what some did; it never condones their polygamy nor does it make their practices normative for that time nor this.





KFC,

Which one is it? I thought you agreed that God allowed polygamy. Now it seems you are backtracking...

Just for clarity, I have consistently said that God only tolerated it...He allowed it.


KFC POSTS:
The bible doesn't stop to moralize on these instances of polygamy but does expect each reader to realize that what was taking place was contrary to the will and morality of God.
Scripture does not always pause to state the obvious.


Here, you're scaring me a little...sounds like you're saying that the Holy Bible is a real live entity.

The Holy Bible itself doesn't moralize or expect anything or pause to state....the Holy BIble needs an interpreter who does all those things.

on Mar 24, 2008
LULA POSTS:
Luther married an ex-nun. According to Luther's WOrks, Vol. 2, pg. 40, on April 5, 1523, the night before Easter, a guy named Leonard Koppe and a couple other guys abducted 12 nuns


KFC POSTS:
See this is an example. Everything you cite about Luther is with contempt and hatred Lula.


Thanks Zergimmi for the info
I would never go to a Catholic site on Luther. Never. The Catholics are totally biased when it comes to Luther. Remember they hated him and wanted him killed.


whew! This is quite a charge you've levied against me and the Catholic Church. It no doubt is the way you FEEL, but you've judged wrongly.

Everything I've written in post # 33 in response to Zergimmi's comment is either taken from quotes of others or historical fact. Nothing biased or hateful there.

No, no hatred of Luther here...

It's true I can't find much intellectually good about him. For one....he declared reason was of the devil and that the Christian must regard it as his greatest enemy! and two, morally still less so. Perhaps you could convince me otherwise. His own writings and diaries record shocking excesses of sensuality, where he indulged his vices and concupiscenses giving disgraceful descriptions of not having been continent or chaste or being "soaked in wine".

Luther, an apostate Augustian priest, knew it was certainly contrary to his duty to violate solemn vows he had made to God and still more so, to take a nun from her convent.

Perhaps you can find something like that edifying in Luther, but no one who has an elementary knowledge of life in Christ and that of Luther can possibly reconcile them. I'm not saying this merely to detract from the memory of him, but the majority of those who glorifiy him know little or nothing about him save he was a legendary saintly reformer.

The more sincere Protestants wish to follow Christ, the less like Luther they become.

on Mar 24, 2008

Which one is it? I thought you agreed that God allowed polygamy. Now it seems you are backtracking... Just for clarity, I have consistently said that God only tolerated it...He allowed it.

Follow me Lula carefully.  You're not taking the time to think about what I'm saying.  God did allow it....he allowed Cain to murder Abel as well.  He doesn't stop it.  Doesn't make it right.

But he NEVER condones or sanctions polygamy.  He doesn't say...."oh well, you're going to do it anyway...so go ahead."

No.  They all paid the price for this sin.  It was going against God's best.  Plain and simple.

So no...never does God make it ok for them to have more than one wife.  He never gives permission. 

Here, you're scaring me a little...sounds like you're saying that the Holy Bible is a real live entity.

well not so sure what's so scary with what I wrote Lula.  But yes, I do believe the inerrant word of God is alive as it says it is:

"For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit of joints and marrow and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart."

....the Holy BIble needs an interpreter who does all those things.

we've been over this a gazillion times Lula.  I know you believe the CC is the interpreter.  I disagree and so doesn't Peter whom you claim to be the first Pope. 

 

 

on Mar 24, 2008

Which one is it? I thought you agreed that God allowed polygamy. Now it seems you are backtracking... Just for clarity, I have consistently said that God only tolerated it...He allowed it.

Follow me Lula carefully.  You're not taking the time to think about what I'm saying.  God did allow it....he allowed Cain to murder Abel as well.  He doesn't stop it.  Doesn't make it right.

But he NEVER condones or sanctions polygamy.  He doesn't say...."oh well, you're going to do it anyway...so go ahead."

No.  They all paid the price for this sin.  It was going against God's best.  Plain and simple.

So no...never does God make it ok for them to have more than one wife.  He never gives permission. 

Here, you're scaring me a little...sounds like you're saying that the Holy Bible is a real live entity.

well not so sure what's so scary with what I wrote Lula.  But yes, I do believe the inerrant word of God is alive as it says it is:

"For the word of God is living and active, sharper than any two edged sword, piercing to the division of soul and of spirit of joints and marrow and discerning the thoughts and intentions of the heart."

....the Holy BIble needs an interpreter who does all those things.

we've been over this a gazillion times Lula.  I know you believe the CC is the interpreter.  I disagree and so doesn't Peter whom you claim to be the first Pope. 

 

 

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