BEHOLD Thy Son BEHOLD Thy Mother
So today we heard the third message or saying of Jesus (of seven) on the cross as we make our way to Easter. It was named "When Love Looks Down." Today was probably the most controversial verse of the seven. The sermon was from John 19:25-27 and reads:
"Now there stood by the cross of Jesus, his mother.........When Jesus therefore saw his mother, and the disciple standing by, whom he loved he said to his mother, "Woman, BEHOLD your son!" Then said he to the disciple, "BEHOLD your mother!" And from that hour that disciple took her to his own home."
The first thing we looked at was the word "Behold." This word is used more than 600 times in the NT. It is the word ide (id-eh) and means; to see; to call attention to; earnestly look; with careful observation; to view attentively; to perceive.
We remember John the Baptist when he said "BEHOLD the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world." We see also earlier in this same chapter 19:14 when Pilate said before they led Christ away to be crucified, "BEHOLD your king."
Also in v26 it says "Jesus therefore saw" and this word is "horao" and means "to stare at" Jesus stared at his mother and saw her pain. He saw her great anguish and if he could would have comforted her with his arms around her but he could not. Her pain could not be helped. She experienced great joy in his birth and now she must experience great pain in his death. She knew and expected something like this as she was warned way back when her firstborn son was but a baby. But how can one really understand this sort of heart wretching pain until one experiences it? I wonder, at this moment, if she remembered Simeon and his prophetic word to her back in Luke 2:34? He said:
"Simeon blessed them, and said unto Mary, his mother, (not his father Joseph who would be dead by then) "Behold, this child is set for the fall and rising again of many in Israel; and for a sign which shall be spoken against; Yes, a sword shall pierce through your own soul also, that the thought of many hearts may be revealed."
The day Simeon had once foretold was here and now. She was in great anguish at the foot of her firstborn's cross. But Jesus even in his pain and affliction honored her even as he was about to die. He handed her over to the protection and care of the best friend one could have. John was called the Apostle of Love. What better person could he have left his mother with?
Jesus was a great example of one who honored his parent. In the OT to honor one's parents was not only a commandment from God, but the only one that promised a blessing in doing so. To honor "kabod" in the OT Hebrew meant "to give weight to." Paul uses this also in Galatians and in the Gk it's "timao" and means "to prize" "to value highly." Jesus was doing this as he provided for her and tradition says that she did live out her years with John in Ephesus.
Now this is where it gets controversial. Some believe that Mary sharing in his anguish and pain was somehow brought into union with him on that cross. By sharing in his pain she also shared in his redemption of all mankind. This would elevate her to co-mediator or co-redeemer status. But what we are seeing here is just the opposite. We are seeing a separation. He is separating from her. He was her son and now he needed to be her Savior as well.
Another interesting point worth mentioning is John's dedication to Christ. We know he was the only one of the disciples left. The others had all scattered the night before afraid they may have met the same fate. John can't help but follow Christ. We see this right from the start in 1:37 after John the Baptist declared who Christ was. We read......"the two disciples heard him speak and they followed Jesus."
We know at the Last Supper, John was leaning on Christ's breast at dinner. If not known by the scriptures, surely the world knows by the painting made famous by the great Leonardo. Then after the resurrection when Jesus pulled Peter aside to reinstate him we see this in 21:20:
"Then Peter turning about, saw the disciple whom Jesus loved following; which also leaned on his breast at supper....." John just could't bear to be away from his Lord and Savior" Today, we'd probably call him a stalker.
Another definition for BEHOLD I haven't mentioned yet is "ascertain." We BEHOLD and then what? What must be done about it? Christ said this in Revelation:
"I am he that lives and was dead; and BEHOLD, I am alive for evermore, Amen; and have the keys of hell and of death." 1:18
"BEHOLD, he comes with clouds and every eye shall see him, and they also which pierced him; and all kindreds of the earth shall wail because of Him. Even so, Amen." 1:7