If that were the case, TW, I never would have put this here to begin with. I never said my kids were perfect. I said that David and Aly were waiting until marriage in one account. I have two sons that have committed to that and one son who did not. This particular son has not committed himself to Christ as the other two have either. I believe that plays a part in all this. With all the pressures going on today, I think that is commendable that any young person, including my sons, are waiting until marriage. It's their choice to stay pure and I think that's a good thing.

We would have preferred these two waited as well, but they didn't and that's that. We were not thrilled they were starting their new marriage so soon with a little one without the benefit of just adjusting to marriage itself, but now it's done we will do all we can to support them.

YOU'RE WELCOME

We would have preferred these two waited as well, but they didn't and that's that. We were not thrilled they were starting their new marriage so soon with a little one without the benefit of just adjusting to marriage itself, but now it's done we will do all we can to support them.

That reminds me of my neighbors. Their oldest got pregnant when she was 16. I was scandalized! (I remember her as that cute little girl next door). What did they do? They loved her and helped her and her boyfriend have the baby and then get married.

And then I looked at my own attitude and was really ashamed. And I admired them for their attitude.

Congratulations Gram to be (what my mother insists upon being called as she hates Grandma.)

I never said my kids were perfect

Nope, you never said it outright.  However, I - and obviously a few others here at JU - have been watching you crow about how your children are such good christians that they sleep on pavements rather than in the same room as their girlfriends.  So, to see you now try to rationalize and justify this pregancy that occured out of wedlock (your making sure to tell us that they've been together for 5 years and that they got engaged before they had sex was, to me, an attempt at justification) smacks of hypocrisy.

 

I personally don't think this is something worthy of scorn and judgment, HOWEVER, you have made such a huge deal out of your children being such perfect Christians that I suspected you were trying to sweep this under the rug

Me too.  I could care less about people getting pregnant and not being married, to be honest, but I cannot stand hypocrisy, especially when it comes from someone who consistently written about how her prayers are answered because she's 'right' with god and how her family is right with god too.  Does fornication make you not right with god, I wonder?  Because that's what sex before marriage is defined as - fornication.

Dharma,

I wrote ONE paragraph and you and your friends have decided to attack it....especially you. You keep bringing this up. I can't help that. AGAIN, it wasn't my main point but you chose to make it the main point.

I'm not justifying anything. So you see....in your eyes, I'm damned if I do and damned it I don't is what you are saying here.

What my kids do or don't do now they are on their own does not affect my relationship with God. They will have to answer for their own lives. God is not going to come down and zap me (as much as you'd like) because a baby was conceived outside of marriage. I think he's seen this before.

I'm sorry this bothers you so.

Texas Wahine..... I dont like you

dharmagrl... you are in the same bad boat as Texas Wahine..... I dont like you either

It's Me: Hahahahahaa. Please explain to me why I should care.