We Need To Put Out The Fire, Not Add To It
Published on November 2, 2009 By KFC Kickin For Christ In Current Events

My home state of Maine is once again going to the polls tomorrow to vote on yet another homosexual issue.  This time it's on whether or not homosexual marriage should be legalized.  So far every state that puts this to a vote brings another loss to the homosexual movement.  Not one state to date has had an affirmation by popular vote for homosexual marriage.    

I know we hear and get caught up in some very emotional reasons as to why we should allow this but we really need to take a good look at what's going on in our culture when it comes to marriage and how it's affecting our children already. 

Marriage is under attack.  There was a time when going to the altar was a sacred committment that meant something.  Until death due us part.  Remember that?   There was a time when a man and a woman were united as one, raised a family and sat back to enjoy the fruits of their labor in the benefits we call grandchildren.  We still see some old dinosaurs out there who are still hanging on trying to keep the traditional home fires burning in a controlled sort of way, but it's getting to be a thing of the past more and more.  We have now abandoned the home fires which are now burning out of control. 

What has happened to all that?  Where did we go wrong?  Is it  religion being taken out of our culture bit by bit?  The invention of the pill leading up to a sexual revolution starting back in the 60's?  Women working outside the home leaving husband and children to fend for themselves much of the time?   Entertainment?  Computers? 

Heterosexuals haven't done such a great job in the marriage business these last 30 or 40 years but legalizing homosexual marriage isn't the answer.  Marriage is on fire, and legalizing homosexual marriage is like adding gasoline to a blaze already burning out of control. 

We are seeing the evidence of this in our kids.  They are hurting.  They have been burnt and are now suffering the consequences of marriages gone aflame.  If you listen carefully you can actually hear the dull roar of the fire as it quickly spreads.  This roar is angry, loud and invasive. 

Look around.  Have you not noticed the anger in our culture especially the younger generation?  It's all making sense.  What do we need to do to put this fire out?  Anger manifests itself in many ways.  Anger acts out. 

Let me tell you what I saw yesterday.  I saw seven hurting (last week there were 12) teenagers in Sunday School.  Not one comes from a traditional homelife.  Every single one of them is missing at least one parent in their lives.  The common denominator is anger and frustration. 

There's nothing like a big batch of homemade cookes to get a bunch of teens to warm up to you.  Within moments we started to hear their heart wrenching stories.  Some I've already posted on an earlier blog. 

Our topic on this morning was anger.  We taught them how we should be slow to speak, quick to hear and slow to anger.  Doing so will alleviate many troubles in their lives and will save them from dire consequences.  They were all too eager to share their problems with us about their emotional abusive step-fathers or in the case of one girl, a brother-in-law  married to her sister who was raising her. 

Where are the real biological parents?  Why so many broken marriages?   In the case of this girl, her sister is 22 years older than her and no talk of any mother or father in the picture.  I'm guessing without this sister and her husband this 14 year old would be in foster care.  She's a beautiful young 14 year old girl. 

One boy has so much anger he has a court date next week to address it.  He's now 18, follows me around showing me his notebook on how he's trying to change his life.  I had the feeling he needs mothering.  His father has been married at least 3 times and has two younger kids with his third wife who doesn't seem to be in the picture now. 

Another boy I'll call JU sat in a back corner with his hat on backwards hardly looking at us.  He wouldn't pick up the book, read along with us or share in the conversation.  While I still know nothing about JU we got a report back this morning that immediately after Sunday School he pulled out of church a man he knew and wanted to talk about his anger issues.  The older man said to my husband "I don't know what you taught about in class yesterday but it sure made an impression on JU.  Enough to pull me out of church to talk to him for over a half hour." 

Every child needs a mom and a dad.  For a child to feel safe and secure he needs both of his parents to stay strong and committed not only to him but to each other.  The best way a father can show a son about love is to show it for his wife.  The best way a daughter can learn about how a woman should love and respect her husband is by watching her mother.   What kinds of models do these kids have? 

We seem so worried about the deficit and how it will affect our next generation but what about the trail of broken marriages leaving angry and displaced kids all over the place? 

We need to go back and try to fix what's broken not add another dimension to an already troubled institution. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


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on Nov 03, 2009

there is rather a large difference between marriage and children, they are not the same.  Couples have children without marrying and marry without having children.

Once made legal, who is to stop people from passing laws to allow families to marry and to marry underage when religion was unable to stop gay marriages?

Politians?  The people?  The other laws? 

The slippery slope could be used to prevent any law every being passed for any reason if you really want to it.

It does when your religion is against such things

If you want your religion to say what others should do then prove your reglion, and your subset of the religion, is correct and is the true religion when compared to all of the other - both past and present.

Well when babies are born in test tubes, when children are raised by 2 same sex parenst and grow up to find out that one of the 2 is not really their parent and that the mom or dad is married to someone else and they made some legal BS to have the child then this individual may feel is if they were nothing more than an experiment or 2 people who were not married or in a relationship in any way and were simply willing to share reproductive parts to make a child. It's one thing for a child to be adopted due to not having parents for one reason or another; it's a completely different situation when the child does not have a father or a mother because it was purposely done this way to satisfy an urge.

Nothing to do with marriage.  Same sex test tube babies are a different issue, and there is no such thing as same sex babies.  To date science has not made two women concive - even in the lab.

on Nov 03, 2009

KFC,

Thanks for the article.  You've done a great job covering the ills that legitimizing homosexuality brings. The more society moves away from traditional marriage and the family, the more disorientated it becomes and children, always in the crosshairs, end up being the greatest victims.

I hope and pray that Mainers will vote NO on redefining marriage today.  

on Nov 03, 2009

They already have that. They're called Mormons. Where have you been?

Here we go again. Is it legal? Do all spouses (legal under the law or not) get the same treatment under the law? I know where you are... apparently 150 years in the past. Please post again when you reach the 21st century or when I need a chuckle.   

on Nov 03, 2009

Basmas:

Politians?  The people?  The other laws? 

Much like what prevents same sex couples from marrying?

The slippery slope could be used to prevent any law every being passed for any reason if you really want to it.

Unless you are arguing that there can only be equality when everyone can marry who they love.. unless "equality" only pertains to gay people.

on Nov 03, 2009

what difference does it make to a married couple that another couple, who happen to have matching genitials, also get married?

Basmas,

The difference is of major important because if this passes, the State of Maine will redefine the 2,000 year old traditional definition of marriage...of "husband" of "wife". It means the state of Maine will no longer recognize for purposes of law the natural distinction between male and female. It means, if this passes, kindergarten age children will be taught that homosexuallity is normal, natural even good.

It means the end of marriage as we have always known it...and this is not a good thing for anyone.

 

 

on Nov 03, 2009

Basmas: how would two adult siblings marrying effect your marriage (same sex or otherwise)?

 

I know same sex marriage and close blood relative marriage are two different things, but if the argument is about equality in marriage, then it is either about "equality" or it isn't.

on Nov 03, 2009

Nobody believed that undremining the role of parents in inner city neighorhoods would destroy the family, but it happened... and if you ask me, it was planned that way.

on Nov 03, 2009

what difference does it make to a married couple that another couple, who happen to have matching genitials, also get married?

night cruiser posts:

Or more than one partner? Or relatives? And why stop there?

basmas

last I looked they weren't opening it up to relative so that really isn't the issue.

Not now, but the whole idea of redfining marriage is to open it later to all possibilities...and night cruiser is right...it will inevitably lead to the slippery slope...marraige will then be allowing any arrangement.

The slippery slope has already happened in one of the Scandanavian countries that codiified homosexual "marriage" about 10 or 12 years ago...and now  the Netherlands ( I think), has legalized "marriage" threesomes. The photo of the first threesome "marriage" was of a man who claimed he loved two women equally and wanted to marry them both.

 

on Nov 03, 2009

chuckcs posts:

I know these questions are ridiculous but they make a point. Our human nature, even before we were more civilized, has always been to teach boys how to be boys and girls how to be girls. How does a couple composed of 2 men teach a young boy to be a man while acting gay in front of them and how does a couple composed of 2 women teach a girl how to be a woman while being lesbian in front of them?

These are very good questions and should be given serious thought.

The idea behind the redefinition of marriage that Mainers are presently deciding is that there will no longer be specific  "male and "female" distinctions. 

  

on Nov 03, 2009

there is rather a large difference between marriage and children, they are not the same. Couples have children without marrying and marry without having children.

Basmas, have you never sang that sing-song when you were a kid..."first came love, then came marriage then came Basmas in the baby carriage"  ?  It's unreasonable to believe that after the homosexual marriage thing gets nailed down then the whole kid issue will be next and forced to be accepted. 

Besides all that, of course what others do affects me.  Everytime I get into an elevator with a bunch of strange men I'm not sure what nutcase I could be on with or if I'm in a store late at night picking up a gallon of milk I'm not sure if I could be attacked.  How they were raised could very well affect me if I'm in the wrong place at the wrong time.  Innocent people are killed daily by others who were neglected or raised wrong and if we keep going along these lines, it's only going to get worse.  Look around you, look at the news...we are living in a society of very angry people.  How they were raised has ALOT to do with it...unless you believe they were BORN THAT WAY? 

Thanks for the article.

Thanks Lula, I'm glad you dropped by.  This is one subject I know we agree totally on, 

I hope and pray that Mainers will vote NO on redefining marriage today.

Me too.  

Unless you are arguing that there can only be equality when everyone can marry who they love.. unless "equality" only pertains to gay people.

Exactly.  We're messing with something we haven't thought out all the way thru. 

Basmas: how would two adult siblings marrying effect your marriage (same sex or otherwise)?

where do we draw the line..is this going to be next?  How about a father marrying his daughter?  Think about Michelle Phillips and her shocking revelation recently about having an affair with her father.  He wanted to run away with her to be with her forever.  Incest has gone on for as long as homosexual sex has so what's the diff?  Why not allow incest behavior be legalized as well?  Why not? 

 

on Nov 03, 2009

Lula and Ted, you understand completely. I wasn't judging just asking folks in general what their threshold of tolerance it. When is enough...enough? And, when one reaches that point isn't it hypocritical to deny someone else's "right" to happiness? There will always be someone to push special interests. IMO this topic is not for the government to decide. If states want to grant benefits similar to those afforded to married couples, so be it, but be prepared for every fringe concept of matrimony to come forward demanding their "rights" too and rightly so. Everyone should get the same deal, one can't pick and choose.

on Nov 03, 2009

Marriage, like all things (except for some people's brains), evolves.

on Nov 03, 2009

It means, if this passes, kindergarten age children will be taught that homosexuallity is normal, natural even good.

An extreme generalization which is just as much bullshit as saying heterosexual marriage is always good.

on Nov 03, 2009

Another stupid, irrational fear of people who are different from the usual group of bigots.

on Nov 03, 2009

It means, if this passes, kindergarten age children will be taught that homosexuallity is normal, natural even good.

An extreme generalization which is just as much bullshit as saying heterosexual marriage is always good.

Infidel,

Check out what has happened in Massachusetts after it went (by judicial fiat) for homosexual "marriage".

Without parental permission, Kindergarten kids are given books that depict homosexuality as normal,natural, even good. ONe of them brought it home and his parents raised a furor with the school over it.  

 

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