We Need To Put Out The Fire, Not Add To It
Published on November 2, 2009 By KFC Kickin For Christ In Current Events

My home state of Maine is once again going to the polls tomorrow to vote on yet another homosexual issue.  This time it's on whether or not homosexual marriage should be legalized.  So far every state that puts this to a vote brings another loss to the homosexual movement.  Not one state to date has had an affirmation by popular vote for homosexual marriage.    

I know we hear and get caught up in some very emotional reasons as to why we should allow this but we really need to take a good look at what's going on in our culture when it comes to marriage and how it's affecting our children already. 

Marriage is under attack.  There was a time when going to the altar was a sacred committment that meant something.  Until death due us part.  Remember that?   There was a time when a man and a woman were united as one, raised a family and sat back to enjoy the fruits of their labor in the benefits we call grandchildren.  We still see some old dinosaurs out there who are still hanging on trying to keep the traditional home fires burning in a controlled sort of way, but it's getting to be a thing of the past more and more.  We have now abandoned the home fires which are now burning out of control. 

What has happened to all that?  Where did we go wrong?  Is it  religion being taken out of our culture bit by bit?  The invention of the pill leading up to a sexual revolution starting back in the 60's?  Women working outside the home leaving husband and children to fend for themselves much of the time?   Entertainment?  Computers? 

Heterosexuals haven't done such a great job in the marriage business these last 30 or 40 years but legalizing homosexual marriage isn't the answer.  Marriage is on fire, and legalizing homosexual marriage is like adding gasoline to a blaze already burning out of control. 

We are seeing the evidence of this in our kids.  They are hurting.  They have been burnt and are now suffering the consequences of marriages gone aflame.  If you listen carefully you can actually hear the dull roar of the fire as it quickly spreads.  This roar is angry, loud and invasive. 

Look around.  Have you not noticed the anger in our culture especially the younger generation?  It's all making sense.  What do we need to do to put this fire out?  Anger manifests itself in many ways.  Anger acts out. 

Let me tell you what I saw yesterday.  I saw seven hurting (last week there were 12) teenagers in Sunday School.  Not one comes from a traditional homelife.  Every single one of them is missing at least one parent in their lives.  The common denominator is anger and frustration. 

There's nothing like a big batch of homemade cookes to get a bunch of teens to warm up to you.  Within moments we started to hear their heart wrenching stories.  Some I've already posted on an earlier blog. 

Our topic on this morning was anger.  We taught them how we should be slow to speak, quick to hear and slow to anger.  Doing so will alleviate many troubles in their lives and will save them from dire consequences.  They were all too eager to share their problems with us about their emotional abusive step-fathers or in the case of one girl, a brother-in-law  married to her sister who was raising her. 

Where are the real biological parents?  Why so many broken marriages?   In the case of this girl, her sister is 22 years older than her and no talk of any mother or father in the picture.  I'm guessing without this sister and her husband this 14 year old would be in foster care.  She's a beautiful young 14 year old girl. 

One boy has so much anger he has a court date next week to address it.  He's now 18, follows me around showing me his notebook on how he's trying to change his life.  I had the feeling he needs mothering.  His father has been married at least 3 times and has two younger kids with his third wife who doesn't seem to be in the picture now. 

Another boy I'll call JU sat in a back corner with his hat on backwards hardly looking at us.  He wouldn't pick up the book, read along with us or share in the conversation.  While I still know nothing about JU we got a report back this morning that immediately after Sunday School he pulled out of church a man he knew and wanted to talk about his anger issues.  The older man said to my husband "I don't know what you taught about in class yesterday but it sure made an impression on JU.  Enough to pull me out of church to talk to him for over a half hour." 

Every child needs a mom and a dad.  For a child to feel safe and secure he needs both of his parents to stay strong and committed not only to him but to each other.  The best way a father can show a son about love is to show it for his wife.  The best way a daughter can learn about how a woman should love and respect her husband is by watching her mother.   What kinds of models do these kids have? 

We seem so worried about the deficit and how it will affect our next generation but what about the trail of broken marriages leaving angry and displaced kids all over the place? 

We need to go back and try to fix what's broken not add another dimension to an already troubled institution. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 


Comments (Page 1)
on Nov 03, 2009

what difference does it make to a married couple that another couple, who happen to have matching genitials, also get married?

on Nov 03, 2009

what difference does it make to a married couple that another couple, who happen to have matching genitials, also get married?

Or more than one partner? Or relatives? And why stop there?

KFC hope the weather is nice today. It's sunny here in Virginia and I'll be off to the polls myself soon.

 

on Nov 03, 2009

last I looked they weren't opening it up to relative so that really isn't the issue.

You have also missed the point.  Why does it matter to one married couple the what the contents of another married couples pants are?

Do you only love your wife because there is not a gay married couple on the planet?

on Nov 03, 2009

Heterosexuals haven't done such a great job in the marriage business these last 30 or 40 years but legalizing homosexual marriage isn't the answer. 

What makes you think it's supposed to be the answer?

I notice you don't mention TV shows like "Who Wants to Marry a Millionaire" or "The Bachelor."

on Nov 03, 2009

Or more than one partner?

They already have that. They're called Mormons. Where have you been?

on Nov 03, 2009

You have also missed the point.  Why does it matter to one married couple the what the contents of another married couples pants are?

She addressed that point when she specifically spoke of a male and a female role model.

KFC believes that males and females have different roles in life (and to an extent I believe that too) and hence need role models for both, ideally married non-changing such.

 

on Nov 03, 2009

an extend

Just a typo, I hope.

on Nov 03, 2009

Just a typo, I hope.

Yes.

Whoever finds typos can keep them!

 

on Nov 03, 2009

Anyone who doesn't think same sex marriage is part of the attack on the family unit in general needs to look at how many arguments for it are based on ending marriage as a legal institution.

on Nov 03, 2009

Anyone who doesn't think same sex marriage is part of the attack on the family unit in general needs to look at how many arguments for it are based on ending marriage as a legal institution.

 

Yet ironically, most of those who make the case are conservative religionists. Hmmm, eh tu?

 

~AJ

on Nov 03, 2009

Leauki


She addressed that point when she specifically spoke of a male and a female role model.
KFC believes that males and females have different roles in life (and to an extent I believe that too) and hence need role models for both, ideally married non-changing such.
 

That would be an angrument for being against same sex couple having children, not marrying.

on Nov 03, 2009

Anyone who doesn't think same sex marriage is part of the attack on the family unit in general needs to look at how many arguments for it are based on ending marriage as a legal institution.

So marriage would be illegal except for gays?

on Nov 03, 2009

Anyone who doesn't think same sex marriage is part of the attack on the family unit in general needs to look at how many arguments for it are based on ending marriage as a legal institution.

 

Additionally, the 50-51% divorce rate and rate of parent-less children (or similar) in a fairly conservative, religious country, with a heterosexual marriage monopoly - is just building up the foundation don'tcha know?

 

 

~AJ

on Nov 03, 2009

Actually, all three of you who replied to my comment are right.  The attack on the family as a fundamental unit of society isn't just being attacked from one side.  It is being attacked from all sides, including from within.

There are powermongers on all sides who see the importance of the family unit in maintaining a free society.  Since those who want to take our freedoms don't just come from one side of the aisle, why should we assume that the attacks would only come from one side.

The attack didn't begin with same sex marriage, and won't end there.  It has been going on for decades.

on Nov 03, 2009

I have a few questions for some here.

Would you expect a father to teach their son how kotex are used? Would you expect a mother to teach their daughters how to pee standing up? I know these questions are ridiculous but they make a point. Our human nature, even before we were more civilized, has always been to teach boys how to be boys and girls how to be girls. How does a couple composed of 2 men teach a young boy to be a man while acting gay in front of them and how does a couple composed of 2 women teach a girl how to be a woman while being lesbian in front of them? As crazy as this may sound and as unlikely as you may think, unless lesbians are willing to get pregnant so that male couples can have children as well how will 2 women or 2 men expect to reproduce? How will they expect a child to understand the concept of reproduction when their parents can not reproduce without outside help?

I have no beef against gay people, I don't hate them, I don't dispize them. I get along with them just fine so long as they don't try to get with me. But this concept basically destroys that which nature created. This is just another form of contamination of nature in my opinion.

I have no solution to resolve a concept such as being gay and wanting a family. But to me gay marriges is more of a problem than a lifestyle. But then making it illegal does not resolve this either. It simply takes the legitimacy under the law out of it. they will still get together and attempt to make families even if they can't do it legally.

what difference does it make to a married couple that another couple, who happen to have matching genitials, also get married?

Well when babies are born in test tubes, when children are raised by 2 same sex parenst and grow up to find out that one of the 2 is not really their parent and that the mom or dad is married to someone else and they made some legal BS to have the child then this individual may feel is if they were nothing more than an experiment or 2 people who were not married or in a relationship in any way and were simply willing to share reproductive parts to make a child. It's one thing for a child to be adopted due to not having parents for one reason or another; it's a completely different situation when the child does not have a father or a mother because it was purposely done this way to satisfy an urge.

last I looked they weren't opening it up to relative so that really isn't the issue.

You seemed to have missed the point. It's not what is currently the issue but the current issue can open the doors to this one. Once made legal, who is to stop people from passing laws to allow families to marry and to marry underage when religion was unable to stop gay marriages?

You have also missed the point. Why does it matter to one married couple the what the contents of another married couples pants are?

It does when your religion is against such things. Your beliefs is to tell those who care to keep their noses out of it. Why can't you be told to keep your nose out from what those who believe this is wrong? Funny how some people think they're the only ones with the right to say "stay out of this, it doesn't concern you".

Yet ironically, most of those who make the case are conservative religionists. Hmmm, eh

What's the purpose of bringing political parties into this? Not all concervatives are religious people and not all religious people are conservatives.

That would be an angrument for being against same sex couple having children, not marrying.

Same difference.

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